What I Want You To Know About Postpartum Psychosis

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Five years ago today my little man was born.

As for any first-time mom, the excitement and energy of the rush to the hospital to meet him is a bit of a blur, especially given the five years that have flooded my memory since then. Sure, we had the same fears and concerns as any new parents: is he sleeping and eating enough? Are we using the right baby products? When will his umbilical cord heal? Are we doing enough tummy time? But for us, the beginning of our story is quite different than that of most new families starting out.

Because right after he turned four weeks old, I had to be hospitalized for postpartum psychosis.

I knew I was experiencing hypomania from the time that he was placed in my arms around four a.m. the morning after he was born. He tried nursing for the first time and the physical exhaustion and emotional release of having just given birth started to set in. We sent him to the nursery so that I could try to catch up on sleep, but with the nurses checking my vitals every hour due to the C-section, sleep was nearly impossible.

Some people may wonder why I hid my symptoms from the people who could help me. The doctors and nurses who saw me when they came to check on the baby while we were still in the hospital never noticed that I was struggling. My therapist, who saw me when I was three weeks post-partum didn’t detect anything unusual. My husband and my parents could sense something was different about me, but we were all so caught up in the new baby that we pushed my mental health issues to the side and put the needs of the baby first.

I love my son with everything in me, but I know from all that I’ve been through over the past eight years living with bipolar disorder that I need to put my mental health first in order to be the best mother I can for him and his sister.

But in the first few weeks of his life, I didn’t know this. I was just a new mom. Trying my hardest to not screw up. And at the time I thought that meant staying off medication to protect my baby.

I was absolutely determined to breastfeed him. I put so much pressure on myself to make it work that the first week I was barely producing any milk because I was so stressed out and the internal fear that my body wasn’t going to be able to actually make food for my baby was doing just that: stunting my ability to lactate.

We did finally figure the whole breastfeeding thing out, me and Owen. And I nursed him for the first four weeks until I was no longer able to hide the fact that I was losing touch with reality.

I felt as though I was invincible and hardly needed to eat or sleep. The less I slept, the more energy I seemed to have. I never napped when the baby napped because I’d always find something to do around the house that was of course more important than catching up on sleep.

Everything around me had a certain sparkle to it. It was as if I were living in a dream world where everything was amplified and so vivid that I had to stay awake to soak it all in. There was no pain, only the soothing sounds of my baby cooing or crying softly before I picked him up.

It was all very surreal. But when hypomania turns into mania, and mania escalates to psychosis, things can go very wrong.

I am so thankful that my husband realized what was happening and knew exactly what to do in order to fix me.

As hard as it was for him to call 911 and have the police and EMT’s take me to the hospital, he knew that I needed to be separated from my baby for a week in order to get well.

And as much as I mourn the week that I lost with my son, I’m grateful for what I learned and how sharing my story has the potential to help other moms and families out there.

Not enough is shared about postpartum psychosis. Even though it is not nearly as common as postpartum depression, doctors still should discuss the potential chances of the occurrence, specifically in patients like me who had a previous bipolar disorder diagnosis.  Society doesn’t understand it and therefore, families aren’t on the lookout for symptoms in new moms. And I’d like to change that.

Women who experience postpartum psychosis are just normal moms who unfortunately have a chemical imbalance in their brains. Some of these women have thoughts of harming their children, and some of them act on those violent thoughts. I was one of the lucky ones who didn’t have those intrusive thoughts, but even if I did – that doesn’t make me a monster, as my friend Robin wrote on her blog recently.

I’m just a mom, with a 5-year old little man, who wants to prove to the world that our struggles don’t define us. They only provide us with opportunities to make a difference in the world. I’m beginning to work on explaining this to him every chance I get.

I’m loving watching my son grow into a smart, funny, caring, determined and stubborn little guy who has stolen my heart with his hugs and his smile. I’m still in complete awe of the fact that he grew inside of my belly, remembering the pressure of his little feet apparent from the outside. Bringing him into our lives was a miracle and we couldn’t imagine life any other way.

The other day I asked him what he thought it would feel like to turn five. “I’ll be all grown up! A big kid!” was his response. So much like me, he’s eager to make his way in the world, try new things and move mountains. I’m trying my best to just let him be little, to enjoy the carefree afternoons at the playground or the library. To linger over snacktime at home with him while his sister is still napping. And to savor every small moment we have together like our morning hugs and bedtime stories.

Five years have gone by so quickly but I’m not sad about them passing. The collection of countless precious memories which I’ve tattooed onto the inside of my mind are what I carry with me in my heart from the past.

I’m eager to see what the years ahead hold. Both for him, and for his mom who will always be looking on with pride.

 

Comments

  1. Thank you for sharing. As one who experienced postpartum psychosis without having a history of mental illness, I had no idea it even existed until after I was correctly diagnosed. It is so important to talk openly about postpartum psychosis as it is the first step in overcoming the stigma. If you want to learn more about my advocacy efforts now, please check out my website at http://www.jennifermoyer.com

    • bipolarmomlife says:

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting, Jennifer! I’ll definitely be checking out your blog. I agree – it’s so important for us to speak out to help erase the stigma.

  2. What a fantastic letter, and I love that you’re sharing this story. Every time we talk about this we break down that stigma a little more. Fantastic, Jenn, and happy birthday to Owen!

    • bipolarmomlife says:

      Thank you so much, Robin. It was a tough post to share, but I knew it was important to let go of that fear. He’s having an awesome birthday so far. Looking forward to celebrating later at preschool and tonight with cupcakes! :)

  3. Happy Birthday to Owen, and happy birth-day to you, Jenn.
    Thank you for sharing your story, your experience, and your continued work to bring awareness to such an important mental health issue.

  4. Happy Birthday, Little/Big Guy! :)

  5. thank you so much for writing this. I battled PPD for two long years and finally got it figured out. It was a lonely road. You bringing awareness to this means so much to others.

    • bipolarmomlife says:

      You’re so welcome. Thank you for reading, Leighann. It was an extremely lonely road for me as well. I’m also so grateful to you and all the incredible women bloggers who write openly about it and advocate because what we’re doing truly is helping others.

  6. Loved this! Being bipolar doesn’t mean women can’t be amazing moms! Thank you!

  7. This is so important. Thank you for sharing your story, for spreading awareness. I look forward to reading more.

  8. It’s so fantastic that you are sharing your story. I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you. Keep writing!

  9. Thank you for being so honest

  10. Thank you for sharing this…it all sounds very familiar. As a mother with bipolar 1 who has just been discharged from hospital I find your blog incredibly helpful.

  11. Thank you for sharing this. My doctors (OB, Peds, and pdocs alike) would not support me breastfeeding my two children because it would mean not my meds and risking post-partum psychosis, particularly given my history of psychosis before i even thought of having children. now I have a nearly 7 year old and a 2 1/2 year old, they are my constant reminder to take care of myself and keep myself (mentally) healthy. I’m so glad to hear that you are doing well and have the support of your family.

  12. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. this is the first time I truly felt like I could have been reading something as if I wrote it. you are making a difference in the lives that are affected by PPP. thank you!

  13. You are to be commended for writing a weekly blog concerning such important mental health issues!! Especially post-partum issues!! YOU ARE SO RIGHT! i HAD post partum depression, moping around the house and nobody noticed…as I think back, it was incredible! And i suffered for months and months and it spiraled into Major depression. keep writing! you are a one in a million young woman!) please forgive lack of capitals – something is not right with keyboard.)
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  14. i EXPERIENCE POSTPARTUM PSYCHOSIS TOO. i’M GLAD TO SEE THAT YOU HAVE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SON NOW. i WAS HEARING SOME VOICES AND HAVING DISASSOCIATIVE EPISODES AS WELL AS BEING SO DEPRESSED i COULDN’T CARE FOR OR ENJOY MY BABY. THE FIRST YEAR OF MY ELDEST DAUGHTERS LIFE IS A BLUR TO ME, I BARELY REMEMBER ANYTHING AT ALL. i HAD TO STOP BREASTFEEDING AT 2.5 MONTHS TO GO ON STRONG MEDICATIONS AND I FEEL STRONGLY THAT THESE MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES AND NOT BREASTFEEDING ARE WHAT CAUSES THE TWO OF US TO BUT HEADS TO STRONGLY NOW AND HOW I FEEL DIFFERENTLY ABOUT HER THAN ANY OF MY OTHER CHILDREN.

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